In my dream I see my wife run into one of her ex boyfriends. They hug and then stare into each others eyes for a long time, and he touches her face gently. She turns to see me see them, and she comes to me. I feel sick to my stomach and I want to hold my anger against her. After some time my wife and I are at a party together but I am still upset with her and giving her the silent treatment. I see her from across the room and I realize how lucky I am to have her so I ask her to come with me to another room. Then I hug her and hold her close and look into her eyes the same way her ex did and then we kiss. But I still feel sad inside and like there is something I should be worried about. I should mention that her ex is a man, but I am a woman.
Dreams can often reflect our subconscious thoughts, feelings, and concerns, and they can be deeply personal. Your dream appears to involve themes of trust, jealousy, emotional connection, and self-reflection.
Encounter with the Ex: Your wife’s interaction with her ex-boyfriend may symbolize feelings of insecurity or fear of infidelity. It could reflect anxieties about your relationship or comparisons to past relationships. Seeing them share an intimate moment in the dream might signify a fear of losing her to someone from her past.
Feelings of Anger and Hurt: Your initial reaction of feeling sick and wanting to be angry suggests you are grappling with deep emotions, possibly unresolved issues or reflecting on your own feelings of inadequacy. The silent treatment you gave her at the party may represent the barriers you put up when feeling hurt or betrayed.
Realization of Love: The moment you realize how lucky you are to have her indicates a shift from negativity to appreciation. It suggests that despite any jealousy or fear, your love for her remains strong and is a central focus in your life.
Connection and Resolution: The act of hugging her, holding her close, and longing to connect again symbolizes a desire for intimacy and resolution. It's a reflection of your wish to nurture your bond despite fleeting insecurities.
Lingering Sadness: The sadness you feel even after connecting with her suggests that there are deeper issues to address in your relationship—perhaps insecurities about your bond or lingering fears that need to be acknowledged.
This dream may prompt you to reflect on your feelings about your relationship, communication with your wife, and any underlying fears that need to be explored. Consider discussing your feelings openly with her to foster a stronger connection and alleviate any insecurities you might have.